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September 18, 2012

Wedding Toasts

Wedding Toasts

The wedding toast has evolved from a simple “to your health and happiness” to a personalized, fine tuned presentation, and often using props for visual aids.  Statistics show that, next to dying, public speaking is some Americans’ greatest fear.

Who toasts, what order, and how many?  There is a simple equation to make this be a memorable event at your wedding rather than a disaster and embarrassment.  AVOID an “open microphone” at your wedding for anyone to say a toast.  If you are interested in having an “open microphone,” it is best to offer this option for your closest family and friends at the rehearsal dinner.

One key thing to remember, the bride and/or groom have entrusted YOU to be in the position with the microphone to say something remarkable about them, and their relationship.  Treat others the way you would like to be treated, and your toast will be a raving success!

The bride and groom should have a list of who will be toasting, and in which order, which they have given to their bandleader and/or DJ for introductions.  If they have not, make sure you discuss this with them so you know their preference.

Tips for Preparing Your Toast.

  • Stand when offering a toast.
  • Speak from your heart, and research to find out clever and interesting facts about the bride and groom which would be interesting and clever to share about their relationship in a positive light.
  • Be upbeat when offering toasts.
  • If someone has died in the family recently, this is not the time or place to offer your sympathy.
  • If you do include humor, do it tastefully, and end on a serious note.
  • Quotes from readings and poetry may enrich your toast, as well as letting the bride and groom know you cared enough to give it some thought ahead of time.
  • The best man usually offers the first toast, followed by the maid/matron of honor.
  • Wedding toasts are traditionally made to the bride and groom individually, and then to the couple.
  • A wedding toast should be trimmed down to 3 minutes maximum.  You WILL lose your audience’s interest if it is longer.  Edit your word choice, the more impact is from the least amount of words.
  • If this is the second marriage for the couple, NEVER mention this during the toast.
  • Avoid clichés, jokes, or “humor” which may have ethnic or religious implications.
  • Steer clear of profanity or offensive language.
  • Practice your toast in front of a family member, or in front of a close personal friend.

Delivering Your Toast.

  • Speak into the microphone, and arrive early for a sound check to feel comfortable in the room so you know how close to hold the microphone to your mouth.  You don’t want feedback screeching in the room, and you don’t want the level of the volume of the microphone so low no one can hear what you say.
  • Avoid saying “um”, “you know,” “I mean,” and other phrases which mean you are not well prepared.
  • Keep the tone of your voice interesting, not monotone, not too high pitch, and don’t speak to fast, or too slow.
  • Make eye contact with the bride and groom, and everyone in the room.  Do not have your back to anyone.
  • Do not chew gum.
  • Make sure everyone has something to drink as their toast.
  • Remember to bring your glass with you when you offer your toast.
  • If they haven’t already spoken to you, make sure you speak to the wedding planner, head captain, photographer, videographer, DJ, and band know where your toast is in the timeline for the day.
  • Wish them well.  A toast to the bride and groom should end with hopefull wishes for a happy future.
  • Offer personal advice, or pull inspiration from historical quotes, readyings, literature, or even song lyrics.
  • The final gesture is to raise a glass and take a sip.

Copyright 2012, Kim Horn, MBC™

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July 14, 2011


Your upcoming wedding will affect people in your life differently. Many weddings are “all about the bride”, and rarely do you hear much about the FOB (father of the bride), except when another check needs to be written!

Hoping this helps explain your dad’s pre-wedding behavior (why is he suddenly always in the garage?), not to mention his “day of” apparel requests. Communication during stressful times is important.

During your engagement, make time to be with your dad and spend quality “one-on-one” time together. If you sense your dad is getting emotionally distant, ask him to be involved in a part of your wedding you and your mom think he would enjoy. This would be a perfect time to let your dad know that although your relationship may change, no one will take his place. Let him know you look forward to and will treasure this part of your relationship with him. Your dad is working on trusting another man to protect you, which has always been his duty.

With your wedding day around the corner, your dad may feel a sense of loss or feel “his job is over” once you are married. Mothers normally feel an “empty nest” when you leave for college. Yet with fatherhood, this is a major part of his identity, especially since fathers reflect on when you were little, when he taught you things, and remembering how quickly the time has passed.

Verbally walk your dad through your wedding day schedule for the “when and where” of your rehearsal, ceremony, and reception. Let him know the photography timeline, how he will be walking you down the aisle, and his very important line “her mother and I” or “we do” at the ceremony. Remind him of his welcome/toast to everyone and give him a time limit so he knows to be brief. Practice your father/daughter dance together, and ask your wedding planner for assistance if you need help with song selections and choreography.

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