Do you have a gap between your wedding ceremony and reception?Â If you do, it is normally due to the wedding ceremony start time at your church of choice, and may be up to two or three hours.Â If not, PLEASE read this e-mail below, which my change your mind, and please put yourself in the position of the writer (the guest).Â Always try to have my brides, grooms and parents of the couple to understand this.Â Being a role model to many, always try to live by the golden rule, especially when all of your family and friends are affected.
Received this email:
Q:Â â€śKnow you know everything wedding, and thought I would e-mail you before questioning the bride.Â Just received her wedding invitation in the mail, and there is a 5.5 hour gap between their ceremony and reception. Is this typical?Â Excited to be invited, and donâ€™t want to seem ungrateful, yet need your expert on how to RSVP. From our house, the ceremony is a 30 minute drive, and the reception is a 45 minute drive, which makes going back and forth difficult. My husband and I discussed attending the reception and skipping the ceremony, but don’t want to be rude. Just looking for what’s “normal” here.Â There are no planned activities for the guests and family members, just for their wedding party since they are having all their photos and activities between the ceremony and the reception.Â Feeling bad for guests which have a longer commute than we do.Â What do you suggest?
This is our proposed timeline if we went to both:
11:30 am – drive to ceremony
12 pm – ceremony starts
12:50 pm- ceremony ends
Arrive back home around 1:20 pm
Then nothing for 4.5 hours.
5:45 pm – drive to reception
6:30 pm – cocktail hour starts
7:30 pm – the bridal party is introduced
8 pm – dinner and dancing
A:Â With the start time of the ceremony, assuming the bride and her wedding party will be having their hair and make-up appointments prior to the start of the wedding.Â In order for them to get some sleep, the bride has opted to have their photos after their ceremony instead of prior to their wedding ceremony.Â Knowing sunset and sunrise are the two best times for outdoor lighting, you may want to check with the bride/groom to see where their photos will take place.
Depending on who you know best, you may want to reach out to the bride (appears you know her best, right?) and see if she is having many out-of-town-guests.Â If so, many of the guests are in a worse situation than you are!
You may want to ask, if there is a hotel lounge or cafĂ© near the reception site, or if they are planning a designated area for people to gather versus losing many of their guests.Â No one likes being â€śall dressed up with nowhere to go!â€ť
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