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August 2, 2013

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Thanks to JanDekkerDesigns.com for the gorgeous photo!  Few vendors ROCK my world like Jan, plus her b’day is one day before mine, go figure, right!

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You found the man/woman of your dreams, your soul mate, right, congrats!  You said “YES”, you’re engaged, and since many items do come in “threes,” or “multiples of threes,”– such as graduating from college, moving into a new home, switching jobs, finding a new job, buying a new car, and then you just added the “wedding to do list” which is a mile long, you are BUSY!  You thought finding time to do things was tough before, well, it doesn’t get any better!

As an experienced wedding planner, at the end of the day, in my opinion (which you will hear TONS of opinions), this is truly what matters…having an incredible wedding of your dreams is important, yet more important is the quality of the rest of your life together as husband and wife.

Your wedding may be the first “party” you have thrown with all of your family and friends in attendance.  To make it more stressful, it is not only your family and friends, you have added the family and friends of your fiancé too (many you may not have met yet)!

The golden rule is important.  You have heard of bridezilla, groomzilla, and momzilla, so please don’t let the stress of planning your wedding turn you, or someone you love into one!  Reach out to those in your close circle of family and friends in a kind way.  You may disagree, tempers may flare, yet pick your battles, since relationships and friendships may end over minor issues which may have been solved easily and quickly.

Here are a few MUST DO tips before you walk down the aisle and say “I do.”

1).  Happily ever after happens in fairy tales.  Pre-wedding anxiety is normal.  Confront your fears, stress, or concerns about your marriage head on.  Be open with your fiance and your inner circle of family and friends.

2).  Plan a date night with your fiance.  Have a date night with your fiancé where you talk about what he wants to talk about, and don’t bring up “the wedding.”  Make it at a location on “neutral grounds,” where you both are comfortable and get back to “normal” before the stresses of planning the wedding.

3).  Discuss a prenup, checking accounts, credit cards, savings, and joining finances.  If you haven’t already discussed this, it is important.  You may want accounts to stay at “your bank,” while he wants accounts to stay at “his bank”.   Once checks and bills start coming in, you don’t want confusion about whose account they should go into or out of.  Are you going to stay with “your” bank, switch to “his” bank, or go to a different bank altogether?  Finances are normally one of the top items of disagreements in relationships.

4).  Discuss plans to have children or not have children.  Many breakdowns in marriages occur when someone “thought” or “assumed” their spouse wanted and expected something, then when they brought it up, said they were “blind sided” and didn’t see “that” coming.  If you are planning to have children, when, and how many?  If you are not planning on having children, best to talk about it now.  If you do have children, how are you going to raise them if you are Catholic and he is Jewish?

5).  Plan “me” time.  Schedule something which helps you relax, and something you like to do for you.  May be working out, hiking, playing sports, purging your closet, something for you!

6).  Bond and have heart-to-heart moments with your family and BFFs.  Once you are married you will have less free time with your parents and friends.  Plan something you have always wanted to do with them, yet haven’t done “yet” together, something on your/their “bucket” list.

7).  Talk about “When we’re married…”  Here is a way to get the creative minds thinking (LOVE using this in your wedding ceremony wording too):  You have known each other for ____ years, through the first glance of acquaintance to this moment of commitment.  At some moment you decided to marry.  From that moment of yes, until this moment of Yes (your wedding vows), indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way.  All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or on long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will, and you will, and we will,” – those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.  All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

8).  You can’t change someone else.  This is one of the most valuable lessons I will ever share with you.  So many clients say “after the wedding, this isn’t happening…”and feel they have a magical way of changing their spouse.  When your vows say, “for better, for worse,” that is truly what to expect.  You love your fiancé for multiple reasons, and will be spending the rest of your lives together.  Marriage is a two way street, and communication and compromise are crucial to the success of your marriage.

9).  If you don’t like something, work at making a change in yourself to change the way you accept or don’t accept “it” in your life.  The definition of insanity by Albert Einstein is “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different results.”

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

Hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Paradise Valley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

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July 22, 2011

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What is the difference between a resort wedding planner, church wedding planner and having your own personal wedding planner?

Since brides, grooms, mothers, fathers, wedding party attendants, and vendors repetitively ask me this question, decided it is time to blog about it!  Could give you multiple essays on this topic, yet know you are busy, so will limit it to a “few instances” to show you brief examples.

At the end of the day, as YOUR wedding planner, I work for YOU in YOUR BEST INTEREST.  I am NOT paid by the resort or the church to act on the church or the resorts behalf.  You hire and pay me for expert knowledge and to help create your wedding to be seamless, allowing details to be done in advance since it is organized, and on your wedding day, you are a BRIDE, and your mom is the MOB (Mother of the Bride) NOT the wedding planner!

As your personal wedding planner, I help you:

1).  Design your wedding (no 2 weddings are EVER alike – have even done 9 weddings in one family – making each one unique to that daughter or son’s wedding);

2).  Negotiate your agreements;

3). Mediate situations which may arise;

4). Plan your wedding with detailed timelines for photography, hair and makeup, and your entire day to the minute which one approved by you, is distributed to your parents, wedding party, and immediate family.

5). Implement your details at your wedding rehearsal, ceremony, cocktail reception, and dinner and dance!

The church and resort wedding planner manage multiple weddings and events at their same location, and are familiar with the ins and outs of their property.  The church and resort wedding planner may have more than one wedding and/or event on the same day and/or same time as your wedding.  Make sure when you are looking for a ceremony and reception site you know how many weddings and/or events they will book on the same day as your wedding (before, during and after your wedding).  It may affect your vendor load in, your photographs, and time frame of what you may create or NOT create with your wedding design because of lack of time of setup and preplanning.

At a recent wedding where I was hired by the groom as their wedding planner, the resort wedding planner checked in with the bride and groom, then me. The resort wedding planner let me know at the wedding rehearsal the day before she had another wedding at the same time as my bride, and she was going to assign another resort wedding planner to be at her wedding.  I asked her if she had let my bride know, and she replied, “No”.   I highly suggested to the resort wedding planner a substitute the day before the wedding was not acceptable, and the bride and groom did not need any additional stress because of a resort situation.

The resort wedding planner was spread between multiple events at the same time at different locations at her property, since “both brides” wanted her, not the other person on site.  The resort wedding planner could not be with 2 brides at 2 different sites at the same time, she told me she would “be right back” to help get the ceremony started on time.  The resort wedding planner did come back, yet she missed my bride’s entire ceremony. The resort wedding planner showed up 23 minutes past the start time of the ceremony. The resort wedding planner was out of breath, and thanked me for starting everything without her. The bride and groom had just kissed, and were ready for their recessional (when you walk down the aisle as husband and wife).

At a recent bridal show, a few brides told me they had a “wedding planner included in their package.”  Asked them who their wedding planner was, and they didn’t know.  They also did not know what the “venue wedding planner” did vs. what I could do for them as 1 of 61 in the World as a Master Bridal Consultant.

Would you want this to happen to you, especially when it comes to the most stressful part of the wedding day, where it is beneficial to have an experienced wedding planner  lead, line up, and direct your VIP entrance of your closest family and friends, in the middle of making sure your musicians change the music on time for the appropriate VIP entrance.  Remember, everyone knows what time your ceremony is expected to start, it is printed on your invitation!

Focus is “all about my bride”, and I organized and directed the bride’s wedding rehearsal the previous day, and started her ceremony processional (when your VIPs walk in and you too) on time. My bride had no idea the resort wedding planner missed her ceremony, and that is the way it will stay. No names or photos are listed here for a reason, and if you are a client and think it was your wedding, I will deny it!

One church wedding planner tried to have the Mother of the Bride escorted down the aisle by her ex-husband. I immediately stepped in, diffused the situation, and had the mother walk in with her son (which is how we rehearsed it, and how it was on the approved wedding timeline which the church wedding planner had in her hands).

Thankfully the bride didn’t know, yet the MOB (mother of the bride) knew. The mother of the bride thanked me for eliminating what would have been an awkward situation, and commented, “You are worth your weight in gold”!  The church wedding planner had gotten the bride confused with the details on the wedding which was right after this bride’s wedding.

Precision with details and experience are everything when it comes to hiring wedding planner!

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, Master Bridal Consultant.

To you have your own personal wedding planner, contact:

Kim M. Horn, MBC
Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World
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Sponsor ArizonaBridalShow.com
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July 1, 2011

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Happy 4th of July!

Hope your 4th of July is a BLAST!

Are you getting married on the 4th of July, or a holiday weekend?  Know in AZ it will be HOT, so drink plenty of water, have umbrellas/parasols/individual fans for each guest if they will be outside for any part of your wedding.  Holidays may lead to overbooked flights, crowded airports, and delayed luggage.  Have your wedding party and family plan ahead when booking their flights, and don’t take the last flight of the day, since if there are cancellations earlier that day, their flight may be delayed, and they may miss the wedding! 

Be thankful we live in America, land of opportunity!

God bless the USA!

Whatever you do today, with your family and friends celebrate YOU and everything you are!

FUN 4th of July Facts:
– Many of us cookout to celebrate the 4th of July!
– Favorite traditional foods are ribs, hamburgers, hot dogs, salads, potato salad, chips and watermelon.
– There’s a 1-in- 6 chance the beef on your grill came from Texas, the leader in production of cattle and calves.
– The chicken on your grill probably came from Georgia, Arkansas, Alabama, North Carolina, or Mississippi.
– The lettuce in your salad or on your hamburger was probably grown in California, which accounts for 3/4 of the USA lettuce production.
– Fresh tomatoes in your salad most likely came from Florida or California, which, combined, produced more than 2/3 of the US tomatoes.
– The ketchup on your hamburger or hot dog probably came from California, which accounted for 95% of the processed tomato production last year.
– The potato salad or potato chips or fries are probably from Idaho or Washington, which produces about 1/2 of the nation’s spuds.
– Favorite dessert on the 4th is watermelon. Arizona, California, Florida, Texas, Indiana, and Georgia combined to produce about 80% of watermelons last year.
Source: Chiff.com

Kim M. Horn, MBC

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 59 in the World

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

Sponsor ArizonaBridalShow.com

AZ State Coordinator | Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

ABC 2010 Conference Chair

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