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August 11, 2017

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You just got engaged, and what is the best way to get the word out?  You’ve got it, have an engagement party traditionally within three months of the date you officially became engaged.

HOST

Traditionally the bride’s parents host the party, yet you may have someone close to you who offers to host this for you.  If your families live in different states, you may have more than one person host in different states.  You may have the groom’s family host something in their area, or both families come together to host one party for both sides to meet and mingle.

BUDGET

Will the host/hostess be offering their home for a location, or another venue?  Will the host/hostess be selecting and paying for their own vendors for your engagement party, or are you able to select your own?  What is the budget?  Who is paying for what?

LOCATION

Think about the type of atmosphere you want, and if you want everyone in the same room, or if you are okay with them mingling.  To send out invitations you will need the address, city, state, and zip code, as well if you are planning to have valet parking, or if there are parking restrictions, especially if your guests are not familiar with the location.  The size of the location may only accommodate 100 guests, so you want to know the capacity of the location prior to mailing invitations.

DATE & TIME

Check with your families for their holiday, work, and school calendars so your date selection works for you and your immediate family.  What time does everyone get out of work, school, plus transit time to the location, especially if you are in rush hour traffic, or have construction delays.

THEME

Are you having a theme, or a theme which reflects both of you as a couple?  This needs to be denoted on the invitation so guests know what to expect.

ATTIRE

Your theme may set the tone of the event, yet if you are requesting a dress code, this should be on the invitation too.

INVITATIONS

Mailing invitations sets the tone for the rest of your wedding, as well as how your guests RSVP.  Emailing, texting, or social media invites are informal.  Send out invites at least a month in advance (six weeks in advance if a lot of guests are coming from out of town).  There’s no need for a formal save-the-date, yet once you’ve selected a day, it’s best to let guests know by word of mouth before you mail the formal invites.

GUEST LIST

Traditionally anyone invited to your wedding may be invited to the engagement party with a +1.  If you choose to invite someone who is not invited to your wedding, those guests may wonder what they did wrong to not be invited back.  Consider your guest list size for your wedding and the capacity of the venue prior to deciding on your guest list for your engagement party.  Make a master guest list so you only have one list separating the last name of the guest from their first names, and putting various fields you may sort to help you on various events, versus having to make a new list for each event.

VENDOR SELECTION

Is your host/hostess selecting and paying for your vendors, or are you?  The engagement party sets the tone for the rest of your wedding celebrations.

  • Caterer
  • Bartender
  • Desserts
  • Live Music, Band, DJ
  • Invitations
  • Valet
  • Photography
  • Video
  • Favors
  • Decor
  • Rentals – tables, chairs, linens, furniture
  • Photo Booth
  • Games

REGISTRY

Select items on a gift registry you want from a low to middle price range, and if not, include a note in the invitation requesting no gifts, or suggest a favorite charity they may donate to in lieu of present.

MENU

You don’t want to compete with your wedding, so a five course meal is probably not an option.  Think about the atmosphere you want to create.  If you are not serving a full meal, then you should select a time in between typical meals, and make it clear on the invitations so your guests know what to expect.

Copyright 2017, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

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July 23, 2016

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Landon, Ring Bearer

Landon, Ring Bearer

You may approach not inviting children to your wedding in many ways.  Remember, for some families, they may not be satisfied with your choice, feel their kids are a “package deal,” and may plan to disregard your request by bringing their children anyway.  How will you feel if those guests show up with their children at your wedding?

How would you feel if you were invited to a close family member’s out-of-state wedding, and you have young children, and found out they were not invited?  Some people are okay with child-free weddings, others aren’t.

Are you planning to have children in your wedding party as flower girls, ring bearers, junior bridesmaids, or junior groomsmen?  If so, you may already be okay with having children at the wedding ceremony, just not at your cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.  Make an educated decision by talking to each other, and include your parents to get their feedback on what has been done in your family previously at weddings and other social events.

You may choose to include children of family members only, children of a certain age, or no children at all.  It is inappropriate per etiquette to write “No Children” on your invitations.  Instead, communicate your wishes by leaving childrens’ names off the invitations, and write only the parents’ names on the invitation outer and inner envelope.  Make sure you do not address the invitations to “and family,” or “and guests.”  Address your wedding invitation to the specific individual(s) you are asking to share your wedding with you, (i.e., Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Anderson).  You may not want your cousin’s boyfriend of the week invited.

Wishful thinking is that the parents will read and understand by you addressing the envelope to Mr. and Mrs. Steven Horn this implies their kids aren’t invited…great idea and tip above, yet some parents may discard the envelope(s), and “assume” their entire family is invited.  The last thing you want is to not mention this on your save-the-date, or the wedding website, and the parents “assume” the kids are invited and are excited for a family get-away, to receive your invitation 6 – 7 weeks prior to the wedding date to find out their children are not invited.

You may want to tell certain relatives or friends about your plans for not inviting children.  As a courtesy, you may hire an experienced licensed and insured childcare provider during the hours of the wedding to watch the children of the out-of-town guests at a nearby hotel, or allow the guests to pay, provide and select childcare options from a list provided by you on your wedding website.  Nanny or childcare provider services are available to come to you at a location, and most have been fingerprinted, and have background checks for their employees.  Make sure you check their references, and the Better Business Bureau, and get recommendations and referrals from your wedding planner, catering manager, and hotel sales manager.

If you have predominantly locally guests attending, it will be easier for them to arrange reliable childcare.  For a new mother traveling with newborn, and nursing, it will be difficult for her to find reliable childcare in an unknown area, and she may need to be close in case the newborn isn’t taking a bottle from a stranger yet.  This may be the first time they have flown or traveled together with their newborn.  If you have toddlers, they may be clingy and resistant to going with someone they don’t know, especially in the evening, and the parents will be nervous throughout the evening.  In that instance, would recommend to arrange for childcare nearby at their hotel.  This would be close by, and in case they want to check-in during the evening, it would be easy and comfortable for all involved.

Define your version of “child-free.”  Will this be for your wedding cocktail reception, dinner, and dance only, where you are fine with children attending your rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, and the brunch the day after your wedding, or will you have an entire adult only wedding weekend?  You may already have in your mind the set of parents which are going to be upset with you, right?

Advance communication as clear and kindly as possible with specific wedding details like this needs to be included with your save-the-dates and on your wedding website.  Save-the-dates with your wedding website address should be mailed out as soon as possible.  You could provide a list of trusted childcare providers for the parents to reach out and interview, and this would be a way (depending on how many children would be traveling) for the children to be all together.  You may want to provide a room at your out-of-town guest hotel where the children have Netflix movies which are age related and kid activities in the hotel room so the children have an incredible time, are fed, are supervised, may go to sleep comfortably, and the parents enjoy their evening knowing their children are in good hands too, as a win-win.

Once you and your fiancé make a decision on your choice and definition of “child-free wedding”, would recommend keeping it equal for both sides of your families.  If someone RSVPs with more people than you invited, who will be the person to call them and let them know the invitation was for 2 adults, and because of budget, space, or safety (if there is a pool or water feature which may mean unattended children may be at risk) in order for them to enjoy their evening, we have chosen an adult reception only.  The last confrontation you want is, “Why did they get to bring their children, and we couldn’t bring ours?”

If you are having only a few couples which have families, it may be easiest to e-mail, text, or call them to let them know you want them to come for a “date night” at your wedding, and if they need help arranging childcare for “Tommy and Anna”, you have a list of reliable childcare providers referred to you which are insured and licensed on your wedding website to check out since it is an adult reception only wedding.

On your RSVP card, as well as your wedding website here are some ideas to consider:

  • Please reserve ________ adult seats at the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.
  • Please reserve (circle) 1 or 2 adult seats at the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.
  • Adult Reception Only
  • While we love the little ones, this is an adult only affair.
  • We would love for your children to attend the wedding ceremony, however, the reception will be an adult affair. We would love to help you arrange for childcare please see our wedding website www.MattandCindi8.8.2018 for details.
  • ________ children RSVPs for childcare with age(s) being ______________

On your RSVP card, you may want to put a #1, or #2 for the maximum quantity of RSVPs.  This gets difficult if you invite many single guests, since this may allow them to invite their “+1,” although you aren’t interested in inviting their “+1.”

If you and your fiancé are okay with children attending the ceremony, you may want to try:

  • Children are welcome to attend the wedding ceremony, yet the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance is an adults-only affair.
  • Children are welcome at the ceremony, yet to allow all guests to enjoy their evening, we have chosen an adults only cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.

Whatever your choice, please communicate clearly with kind words, and treat people the way you would like to be treated.

Copyright 2016, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™

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July 14, 2016

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Wedding Ceremony Vows

Wedding Ceremony Vows

Once you have applied for and received your Arizona marriage license, these next steps are crucial to include in your ceremony for legalities.

1). NAMES: Have your officiant insert/use your proper names. The bride and groom need to be identified, so we know we have the right people. “We are gathered here today for the wedding of “name” and “name.”

2). DECLARATION OF INTENT: “Are you, here of your own free will, and do you intend to marry ?” This is the “I do” that you answer individually, in front of witnesses.

3). VOW EXCHANGE: “I <bride/groom>, take thee <bride/groom>, to be my <husband/wife/loving companion>.
To have and to hold from this day forward,
For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish, until death do us part.”
REMEMBER: You are marrying your intended spouse, not the officiant. Turn to face each other, hold hands, and gaze into each other’s eyes. This is your promise to become each other’s legal partner. You may customize your vows. VARIETY of VOWS: You may have your officiant recite the vows and you respond, “I Do,” or “I Will.” You may read or recite the vows yourself, or you may have the officiant recite each line of the vows and you repeat each line after them.

4). SIGNING THE MARRIAGE LICENSE WITH WITNESSES: The officiant, the bride, the groom, and two witnesses sign and date the marriage license. The officiant mails in the legal portion of the form to the State of Arizona as soon as possible. Expiration of an Arizona marriage license is one year from the date of issuance.

5). PRONOUNCEMENT: “In front of witnesses, this couple has declared their intention to join their lives in marriage…and we now accept them as husband and wife, please welcome the new and .”

5 STEP PURPOSE: Your words may vary, yet the purpose of each step is the same:
1). Establish who you are;
2). Agree you are here of your own free will, and your intention is to be married;
3). Promise to the other person to be their spouse;
4). Sign the legal license with officiant and witnesses; and
5). Pronouncement by the officiant that we have witnessed this legal contract.

Make sure your ceremony has these basic, minimal parts, and that your officiant files the license on time with the State of Arizona.

Copyright 2017, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™
Master Wedding Planner | 1 of 75 in the World
Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Luxury Wedding Planner
Paradise Valley Wedding Planner |
Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner |
Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
Publisher | President | ArizonaBridalSource.com

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M 602.418.9089
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Copyright 2017, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™
Master Wedding Planner | 1 of 75 in the World
Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Luxury Wedding Planner
Paradise Valley Wedding Planner |
Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner |
Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
Publisher | President | ArizonaBridalSource.com

O 480.921.7891
M 602.418.9089
F 480.829.6292
E info@ArizonaBridalSource.com
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