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August 2, 2013

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Thanks to JanDekkerDesigns.com for the gorgeous photo!  Few vendors ROCK my world like Jan, plus her b’day is one day before mine, go figure, right!

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You found the man/woman of your dreams, your soul mate, right, congrats!  You said “YES”, you’re engaged, and since many items do come in “threes,” or “multiples of threes,”– such as graduating from college, moving into a new home, switching jobs, finding a new job, buying a new car, and then you just added the “wedding to do list” which is a mile long, you are BUSY!  You thought finding time to do things was tough before, well, it doesn’t get any better!

As an experienced wedding planner, at the end of the day, in my opinion (which you will hear TONS of opinions), this is truly what matters…having an incredible wedding of your dreams is important, yet more important is the quality of the rest of your life together as husband and wife.

Your wedding may be the first “party” you have thrown with all of your family and friends in attendance.  To make it more stressful, it is not only your family and friends, you have added the family and friends of your fiancé too (many you may not have met yet)!

The golden rule is important.  You have heard of bridezilla, groomzilla, and momzilla, so please don’t let the stress of planning your wedding turn you, or someone you love into one!  Reach out to those in your close circle of family and friends in a kind way.  You may disagree, tempers may flare, yet pick your battles, since relationships and friendships may end over minor issues which may have been solved easily and quickly.

Here are a few MUST DO tips before you walk down the aisle and say “I do.”

1).  Happily ever after happens in fairy tales.  Pre-wedding anxiety is normal.  Confront your fears, stress, or concerns about your marriage head on.  Be open with your fiance and your inner circle of family and friends.

2).  Plan a date night with your fiance.  Have a date night with your fiancé where you talk about what he wants to talk about, and don’t bring up “the wedding.”  Make it at a location on “neutral grounds,” where you both are comfortable and get back to “normal” before the stresses of planning the wedding.

3).  Discuss a prenup, checking accounts, credit cards, savings, and joining finances.  If you haven’t already discussed this, it is important.  You may want accounts to stay at “your bank,” while he wants accounts to stay at “his bank”.   Once checks and bills start coming in, you don’t want confusion about whose account they should go into or out of.  Are you going to stay with “your” bank, switch to “his” bank, or go to a different bank altogether?  Finances are normally one of the top items of disagreements in relationships.

4).  Discuss plans to have children or not have children.  Many breakdowns in marriages occur when someone “thought” or “assumed” their spouse wanted and expected something, then when they brought it up, said they were “blind sided” and didn’t see “that” coming.  If you are planning to have children, when, and how many?  If you are not planning on having children, best to talk about it now.  If you do have children, how are you going to raise them if you are Catholic and he is Jewish?

5).  Plan “me” time.  Schedule something which helps you relax, and something you like to do for you.  May be working out, hiking, playing sports, purging your closet, something for you!

6).  Bond and have heart-to-heart moments with your family and BFFs.  Once you are married you will have less free time with your parents and friends.  Plan something you have always wanted to do with them, yet haven’t done “yet” together, something on your/their “bucket” list.

7).  Talk about “When we’re married…”  Here is a way to get the creative minds thinking (LOVE using this in your wedding ceremony wording too):  You have known each other for ____ years, through the first glance of acquaintance to this moment of commitment.  At some moment you decided to marry.  From that moment of yes, until this moment of Yes (your wedding vows), indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way.  All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or on long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will, and you will, and we will,” – those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.  All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

8).  You can’t change someone else.  This is one of the most valuable lessons I will ever share with you.  So many clients say “after the wedding, this isn’t happening…”and feel they have a magical way of changing their spouse.  When your vows say, “for better, for worse,” that is truly what to expect.  You love your fiancé for multiple reasons, and will be spending the rest of your lives together.  Marriage is a two way street, and communication and compromise are crucial to the success of your marriage.

9).  If you don’t like something, work at making a change in yourself to change the way you accept or don’t accept “it” in your life.  The definition of insanity by Albert Einstein is “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different results.”

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

Hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Paradise Valley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

2010 Annual Conference Chair (worked with David Tutera) – Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

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June 19, 2012

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TheWrightHouse.com - Wedding Ceremony & Wedding Reception Site in Phoenix, Arizona

TheWrightHouse.com - Wedding Reception Site in Phoenix, Arizona

Normally you will spend more money on your wedding reception food and beverage than on any other part of your wedding. Book your site as far in advance as possible. Your final decision on your site selection depends on your wedding style and number of guests. You may want an outdoor garden wedding, mountain views, cascading waterfalls, or a glass enclosed site with breathtaking sunset photo opportunities.

Call the site and check availability for your date, time of day, and expected number of guests. Traditionally Saturday evenings are popular, so you will pay a premium price based on inventory available. Normally a Saturday evening garden wedding in March will be more expensive than a Sunday afternoon wedding in August in Arizona. You may find more availability if you are flexible and are willing to change your wedding to a Saturday morning, Friday evening, Sunday evening, or during the week. Ask to see if you will receive a discount or have less of a minimum guarantee on revenue if you book an “off peak” month, day or time.

Understand what is included in your reception package. If you don’t understand something, ask questions to get clarification.  Get the price per person or the minimum revenue they are requiring in order for you to book their site. If you have the option of bringing in your own caterer and bartending service, make sure the services you hire are licensed and insured. Find out what the rental fee is for the room and if it is based on the amount of guests. If your guest count increases, this may be a financial consequence to you for additional tables, chairs, etc.  If you have handicapped guests, find out if your location has handicap access.

For menu and service options find out if the caterer has a set menu, or if it may be modified. Get a written cost breakdown and what is included per person based on your budget, the type of service, and the formality of your reception (i.e., valet parking, passed hors d’oeuvres, plated dinner, stations, buffet, open bar, champagne toast, wine pass with dinner, coffee service, wedding cake, tables, chairs, chair covers, linens, crystal, china, flatware, dance floor, heaters, umbrellas for shade, and tents for inclement weather). Will you have a guaranteed price if you book your reception and give a deposit? If the pricing will not be guaranteed, ask for a ceiling on anticipated menu increases, and get everything in writing. What is the tax and gratuity percentage? Gratuity is frequently taxed, which increases your budget. When is your guest count due to the caterer? What is the overage percentage the chef will prepare? What will the pricing be for kids, vegetarians, kosher, gluten free, and vendor meals? If you have leftover food, find out if you may take nonperishable food with you. You may want to check options for delivering perishable food to a nearby homeless shelter. How many hours do you have the site? When may your vendors come in to setup?  Will there be overtime charges if you go beyond the allotted time? What are the cancellation, refund, and change of date policies? Find out when the deposits are due and when the final balance is due. Once you narrow down your options, arrange a taste test with the caterer to taste the menu. Sometimes taste tests are free, other times there is a charge. Ask your caterer for options and flexibility.  Site personnel change frequently, so make sure you get all quotes and contracts in writing, as well as any extras you have negotiated.

Copyright 2012, Kim Horn, MBC™

To hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale, Paradise Valley, Chandler, Phoenix and Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

2010 Annual Conference Chair (worked with David Tutera) – Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

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December 29, 2011

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ArizonaBridalShow.com

ArizonaBridalShow.com

Arizona Bridal Show – Save the Date – Sunday, June 9, 2013 at Phoenix Convention Center in the SOUTH building from 9am – 3pm.  Tickets are $12 at the door.  ArizonaBridalShow.com for tickets online.

Bridal shows are a great planning tool when you are a busy bride, groom, or parent planning an upcoming wedding.  In one day and in one place you are able to talk directly with many different exhibitors, see/hear/taste/smell/touch samples of their work, and get an idea of costs involved in hiring their products and services.  Many bridal show exhibitors have show “discounts” or “specials” available for a limited time.

Bridal shows may be overwhelming, crowded, and confusing.  Would highly recommend you spend time planning ahead to get the most out of your bridal show experience.

After being a wedding planner for 25 years (probably older than you, right), these wedding planning tips are priceless to make your “Bridal Show Experience” the most productive!

1).  Visit the bridal show web site for discount coupons on admission.

2).  Mark your calendar with the day(s), start time, end time, and the location with the address and parking details.

3).  Come early, since the you will get more accomplished.

4).  Attend the fashion show, and check the start time.

5).  Bring the people involved in making major decisions for your wedding.

6).  Bring your phone and take photos and video to capture what you like.

7).  Bring address labels or an address stamp with your name, address, phone number, e-mail address, and wedding date to register for prizes.  This will save you time and prevent writer’s cramp.  Remember to register at locations you are interested in, otherwise your in box and mail box will be overflowing!

8).  Bring a large bag (or bag with wheels) so you may comfortably carry all of the hand-outs and samples you receive from the exhibitors.

9).  Wear comfortable shoes since you will be walking and standing on your feet for hours.

10).  Bring your calendar so you may book appointments.

11).  Bring cash and your check book to take advantage of show discounts on site.

12).  Bring your color swatches if you still need a designer, florist, and bakery.

13).  Make a list of priorities of products and services you need the most.

14).  Some vendors may be able to book 1 or 2 weddings a day which will make them book more quickly.  Photographers, DJs, wedding planners, florists, and videographers may be examples of this vendor type.  Other vendors may be able to book multiple weddings on the same day.  Keep this in mind when organizing your priorities.

15).  Stay until the end of the show, you may be able to have props which are leftover from the exhibitors.

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

To hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale, Paradise Valley, Chandler, Phoenix and Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator | Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

ABC 2010 Conference Chair worked with David Tutera

O 480.921.7891

C 602.418.9089

F 480.829.6292

E info@ArizonaBridalSource.com

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