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July 23, 2016

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Landon, Ring Bearer

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You may approach not inviting children to your wedding in many ways.  Remember, for some families, they may not be satisfied with your choice, feel their kids are a “package deal,” and may plan to disregard your request by bringing their children anyway.  How will you feel if those guests show up with their children at your wedding?

How would you feel if you were invited to a close family member’s out-of-state wedding, and you have young children, and found out they were not invited?  Some people are okay with child-free weddings, others aren’t.

Are you planning to have children in your wedding party as flower girls, ring bearers, junior bridesmaids, or junior groomsmen?  If so, you may already be okay with having children at the wedding ceremony, just not at your cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.  Make an educated decision by talking to each other, and include your parents to get their feedback on what has been done in your family previously at weddings and other social events.

You may choose to include children of family members only, children of a certain age, or no children at all.  It is inappropriate per etiquette to write “No Children” on your invitations.  Instead, communicate your wishes by leaving childrens’ names off the invitations, and write only the parents’ names on the invitation outer and inner envelope.  Make sure you do not address the invitations to “and family,” or “and guests.”  Address your wedding invitation to the specific individual(s) you are asking to share your wedding with you, (i.e., Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Anderson).  You may not want your cousin’s boyfriend of the week invited.

Wishful thinking is that the parents will read and understand by you addressing the envelope to Mr. and Mrs. Steven Horn this implies their kids aren’t invited…great idea and tip above, yet some parents may discard the envelope(s), and “assume” their entire family is invited.  The last thing you want is to not mention this on your save-the-date, or the wedding website, and the parents “assume” the kids are invited and are excited for a family get-away, to receive your invitation 6 – 7 weeks prior to the wedding date to find out their children are not invited.

You may want to tell certain relatives or friends about your plans for not inviting children.  As a courtesy, you may hire an experienced licensed and insured childcare provider during the hours of the wedding to watch the children of the out-of-town guests at a nearby hotel, or allow the guests to pay, provide and select childcare options from a list provided by you on your wedding website.  Nanny or childcare provider services are available to come to you at a location, and most have been fingerprinted, and have background checks for their employees.  Make sure you check their references, and the Better Business Bureau, and get recommendations and referrals from your wedding planner, catering manager, and hotel sales manager.

If you have predominantly locally guests attending, it will be easier for them to arrange reliable childcare.  For a new mother traveling with newborn, and nursing, it will be difficult for her to find reliable childcare in an unknown area, and she may need to be close in case the newborn isn’t taking a bottle from a stranger yet.  This may be the first time they have flown or traveled together with their newborn.  If you have toddlers, they may be clingy and resistant to going with someone they don’t know, especially in the evening, and the parents will be nervous throughout the evening.  In that instance, would recommend to arrange for childcare nearby at their hotel.  This would be close by, and in case they want to check-in during the evening, it would be easy and comfortable for all involved.

Define your version of “child-free.”  Will this be for your wedding cocktail reception, dinner, and dance only, where you are fine with children attending your rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, and the brunch the day after your wedding, or will you have an entire adult only wedding weekend?  You may already have in your mind the set of parents which are going to be upset with you, right?

Advance communication as clear and kindly as possible with specific wedding details like this needs to be included with your save-the-dates and on your wedding website.  Save-the-dates with your wedding website address should be mailed out as soon as possible.  You could provide a list of trusted childcare providers for the parents to reach out and interview, and this would be a way (depending on how many children would be traveling) for the children to be all together.  You may want to provide a room at your out-of-town guest hotel where the children have Netflix movies which are age related and kid activities in the hotel room so the children have an incredible time, are fed, are supervised, may go to sleep comfortably, and the parents enjoy their evening knowing their children are in good hands too, as a win-win.

Once you and your fiancé make a decision on your choice and definition of “child-free wedding”, would recommend keeping it equal for both sides of your families.  If someone RSVPs with more people than you invited, who will be the person to call them and let them know the invitation was for 2 adults, and because of budget, space, or safety (if there is a pool or water feature which may mean unattended children may be at risk) in order for them to enjoy their evening, we have chosen an adult reception only.  The last confrontation you want is, “Why did they get to bring their children, and we couldn’t bring ours?”

If you are having only a few couples which have families, it may be easiest to e-mail, text, or call them to let them know you want them to come for a “date night” at your wedding, and if they need help arranging childcare for “Tommy and Anna”, you have a list of reliable childcare providers referred to you which are insured and licensed on your wedding website to check out since it is an adult reception only wedding.

On your RSVP card, as well as your wedding website here are some ideas to consider:

  • Please reserve ________ adult seats at the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.
  • Please reserve (circle) 1 or 2 adult seats at the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.
  • Adult Reception Only
  • While we love the little ones, this is an adult only affair.
  • We would love for your children to attend the wedding ceremony, however, the reception will be an adult affair. We would love to help you arrange for childcare please see our wedding website www.MattandCindi8.8.2018 for details.
  • ________ children RSVPs for childcare with age(s) being ______________

On your RSVP card, you may want to put a #1, or #2 for the maximum quantity of RSVPs.  This gets difficult if you invite many single guests, since this may allow them to invite their “+1,” although you aren’t interested in inviting their “+1.”

If you and your fiancé are okay with children attending the ceremony, you may want to try:

  • Children are welcome to attend the wedding ceremony, yet the cocktail reception, dinner, and dance is an adults-only affair.
  • Children are welcome at the ceremony, yet to allow all guests to enjoy their evening, we have chosen an adults only cocktail reception, dinner, and dance.

Whatever your choice, please communicate clearly with kind words, and treat people the way you would like to be treated.

Copyright 2016, Kim Horn, MWP™

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July 14, 2016

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Are you having an outdoor wedding, or a church wedding?  Are you planning on hiring live musicians or a disc jockey for your wedding ceremony music?

Your music selections will set the tone for your wedding ceremony.  A steel drum player would create a different ambiance than a harpist.  Consider your ceremony location (church, or outdoor wedding), as well as music restrictions (if any) at your ceremony location.

If your ceremony starts at 4:30 p.m., make sure your musicians or DJ are ready to starting promptly at 4:15 p.m., so when your first guests arrive, they may enjoy the ambiance.  Don’t make the common mistake to have your music start at 4:30pm, so everyone waits in silence, or your musicians are warming up, or having a microphone check while your guests enter, it looks unprofessional.

If you are having an outdoor wedding, make sure you have a flat surface in shade next to a power supply for your live musicians or dj.

Just the Way You Are – The Piano Guys

Canon in D – Pachelbel

All I Want is You – Vitamin String Quartet

Always – Chuck Wicks

Wherever You Will Go – Charlene Soraia

A Thousand Years – Christina Perri

Bridal Chorus – Wagner

When I Fall in Love-  Chris Botti

Marry Me – Train

Marry Me Bach – VeeRonna Ragone

Trumpet Voluntary – Clarke

Air on the G String – Bach

The Wedding Song – O’Neill Brothers

Arioso – Bach

Largo, from Xerxes – Handel

Over the Rainbow – Instrumental Cello

Sleepers Awake – Bach

River Flows in You – Yiruma

Over and Over Again – Nathan Sykes

One Call Away – Charlie Puth

At Last – Warren

Largo, from Xerxes – Handel

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Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Luxury Wedding Planner
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Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
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Wedding Ceremony Vows

Wedding Ceremony Vows

Once you have applied for and received your Arizona marriage license, these next steps are crucial to include in your ceremony for legalities.

1). NAMES: Have your officiant insert/use your proper names. The bride and groom need to be identified, so we know we have the right people. “We are gathered here today for the wedding of “name” and “name.”

2). DECLARATION OF INTENT: “Are you, here of your own free will, and do you intend to marry ?” This is the “I do” that you answer individually, in front of witnesses.

3). VOW EXCHANGE: “I <bride/groom>, take thee <bride/groom>, to be my <husband/wife/loving companion>.
To have and to hold from this day forward,
For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish, until death do us part.”
REMEMBER: You are marrying your intended spouse, not the officiant. Turn to face each other, hold hands, and gaze into each other’s eyes. This is your promise to become each other’s legal partner. You may customize your vows. VARIETY of VOWS: You may have your officiant recite the vows and you respond, “I Do,” or “I Will.” You may read or recite the vows yourself, or you may have the officiant recite each line of the vows and you repeat each line after them.

4). SIGNING THE MARRIAGE LICENSE WITH WITNESSES: The officiant, the bride, the groom, and two witnesses sign and date the marriage license. The officiant mails in the legal portion of the form to the State of Arizona as soon as possible. Expiration of an Arizona marriage license is one year from the date of issuance.

5). PRONOUNCEMENT: “In front of witnesses, this couple has declared their intention to join their lives in marriage…and we now accept them as husband and wife, please welcome the new and .”

5 STEP PURPOSE: Your words may vary, yet the purpose of each step is the same:
1). Establish who you are;
2). Agree you are here of your own free will, and your intention is to be married;
3). Promise to the other person to be their spouse;
4). Sign the legal license with officiant and witnesses; and
5). Pronouncement by the officiant that we have witnessed this legal contract.

Make sure your ceremony has these basic, minimal parts, and that your officiant files the license on time with the State of Arizona.

Copyright 2017, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™
Master Wedding Planner | 1 of 75 in the World
Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Luxury Wedding Planner
Paradise Valley Wedding Planner |
Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner |
Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
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• Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
• All of Me – John Legend
• I Don’t Dance – Lee Brice
• Die a Happy Man – Thomas Rhett
• You Are the Best Thing – Ray Lamontagne
• Then – Brad Paisley
• Remedy – Adele
• Shut Up and Dance – Walk the Moon
• How Long Will I Love You – Ellie Goulding
• Yours – Russell Dickeson
• Can’t Help Falling in Love – Elvis Presley
• I Won’t Give Up – Jason Mraz
• At Last – Etta James
• God Gave Me You – Blake Shelton
• Unchained Melody – Righteous Brothers
• Marry Me – Train
• A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
• Crazy Love – Van Morrison
• Your Song – Ellie Goulding
• Everything – Michael Buble
• Amazed – Lone Star
• My Best Friend – Tim McGraw
• Like I’m Gonna Lose You – Methan Trainor, feat. John Legend
• Bless the Broken Road – Rascal Flatts
• Stand By Me – Ben E. King
• Make Me Feel My Love – Adele
• Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton
• Coming Home – Leon Bridges
• Hey Pretty Girl – Kip Moore
• I Cross My Heart – George Strait

Copyright 2017, Kim Horn, MWP™

HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™
Master Wedding Planner | 1 of 75 in the World
Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Luxury Wedding Planner
Paradise Valley Wedding Planner |
Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner |
Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
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As you write your vows, the majority of you “do not know where to start.” Word choice is crucial. If you want your husband to “obey,” you must also be willing to “obey.” Longer vows is not necessarily better. With better word choice, you are effectively able to communicate with less.

Remember, you are speaking and marrying your spouse, not the officiant. You have turned to face each other and are gazing into each other’s eyes, and this is the promise to become each other’s legal partner. Many couples choose to write their own vows. Are you good at writing, yet not at public speaking, or the opposite?

Ceremony Vows may be declared in three ways. Depending on your choice, remember the man traditionally recites/responds first, with the woman reciting/responding second.
1). The officiant may recite the vows, and you respond with, “I Do,” or “I Will,” the man goes first, the woman second.
2). The officiant may recite each line of your vows and you repeat each line after the officiant (this works well if it isn’t too long).
3). You read or recite the vows yourself.
Here are alphabetized words to inspire and assist you in your vow writing brainstorm!

A
Abiding
Absolute
Abundantly
Accepted
Achievement
Admirable
Admire
Adore
Affection
Allegiance
Alliance
Always
Anticipate
Attraction
Authentic

B
Beauty
Believe
Beloved
Bind
Blessing
Bliss
Bold
Bond
Brilliant

C
Canvas
Caring
Celebration
Charm
Cherish
Comfort
Commemorate
Commitment
Community
Companionship
Compassion
Complete
Connection
Considerate
Constant
Content
Covenant
Cultivate

D
Darling
Declare
Dedication
Delight
Desire
Destiny
Devoted
Devotion
Dignity
Distinct
Divine
Dream

E
Elation
Elegance
Embrace
Emotion
Empathy
Encourage
Endless
Enduring
Energetic
Energy
Engaging
Enthusiasm
Entirety
Essence
Esteem
Eternal
Ethical
Everlasting
Exquisite

F
Faith
Favorite
Fellow
Fidelity
Fondly
Forever
Form
Forthright
Foster
Friendship
Fun

G
Generous
Gentle
Genuine
Gift
Glad
Glance
Glorious
Godly
Grace
Grandeur
Grateful
Gratitude
Gravity
Growth

H
Happiness
Harmony
Health
Heart
Heartfelt
Heights
Heavenly
Highlight
Holy
Honest
Honor
Hope
Humor

I
Ideal
Immense
Immortal
Independent
Indestructible
Infinite
Influence
Insightful
Inspirational
Inspire
Integral
Integrity
Intense
Intensions
Interwining
Intimate
Invaluable
Inward

J
Join
Journey
Joy
Jubliant
Judgement

K
Karma
Key
Kiss
Knowledge

L
Lasting
Laughter
Life
Lifetime
Light
Limitless
Love
Loyal

M
Marry
Masterpiece
Matrimony
Mature
Meaningful
Melted
Memorable
Merge
Miracle
Moral
Motivate
Motive
Mutual

N
Natural
Never-ending
Noble
Nuptial

O
Oneness
Open
Optimism
Overcome

P
Partner
Passion
Peaceful
Perfection
Permanent
Pillars
Playful
Pleasure
Pledge
Poise
Powerful
Precious
Predetermined
Present
Preserve
Priceless
Principle
Priority
Promise
Prosperity
Protect
Provide
Pure
Purpose
Pursue

Q
Quality
Quest

R
Radiant
Rare
Real
Refresh
Regard
Rejoice
Relationship
Renew
Resolve
Respect
Responsible
Richness
Righteous

S
Sacred
Sacrifice
Safe
Satisfaction
Sealing
Season
Security
Selfless
Senses
Serene
Shining
Sincerity
Smiles
Solemn
Solidify
Soulmate
Source
Spirit
Splendid
Steadfast
Stimulate
Strengthens
Succeed
Suited
Support
Supreme
Symbol
Symbolize

T
Tears
Tender
Thankful
Thread
Token
Total
Tradition
Transparent
Treasure
True
Trust

U
Ultimate
Understanding
Unify
Union
United
Universe
Universal
Uplifting

V
Value
Vibrant
Virtuous
Vision
Vivacious
Vow

W
Warmth
Whole
Wisdom
Wish
Witness
Worldly
Worthy
Woven

Z
Zealous
Zest

Copyright 2015, Kim Horn, MWP™
HIRE expert, Kim Horn, MWP™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details.

Kim M. Horn, MWP™
Master Wedding Planner | 1 of 75 in the World
Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Paradise Valley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Sedona Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings | Weddings Worldwide
Publisher | President | ArizonaBridalSource.com
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May 25, 2014

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SaintMarysBasilica.org - oldest Catholic Church in Phoenix

SaintMarysBasilica.org – oldest Catholic Church in Phoenix

Do you have a gap between your wedding ceremony and reception?  If you do, it is normally due to the wedding ceremony start time at your church of choice, and may be up to two or three hours.  If not, PLEASE read this e-mail below, which my change your mind, and please put yourself in the position of the writer (the guest).  Always try to have my brides, grooms and parents of the couple to understand this.  Being a role model to many, always try to live by the golden rule, especially when all of your family and friends are affected.

Received this email:

Q:  “Know you know everything wedding, and thought I would e-mail you before questioning the bride.  Just received her wedding invitation in the mail, and there is a 5.5 hour gap between their ceremony and reception. Is this typical?  Excited to be invited, and don’t want to seem ungrateful, yet need your expert on how to RSVP. From our house, the ceremony is a 30 minute drive, and the reception is a 45 minute drive, which makes going back and forth difficult. My husband and I discussed attending the reception and skipping the ceremony, but don’t want to be rude. Just looking for what’s “normal” here.  There are no planned activities for the guests and family members, just for their wedding party since they are having all their photos and activities between the ceremony and the reception.  Feeling bad for guests which have a longer commute than we do.  What do you suggest?

This is our proposed timeline if we went to both:

11:30 am – drive to ceremony
12 pm – ceremony starts
12:50 pm- ceremony ends
Arrive back home around 1:20 pm
Then nothing for 4.5 hours.
5:45 pm – drive to reception
6:30 pm – cocktail hour starts
7:30 pm – the bridal party is introduced
8 pm – dinner and dancing

A:  With the start time of the ceremony, assuming the bride and her wedding party will be having their hair and make-up appointments prior to the start of the wedding.  In order for them to get some sleep, the bride has opted to have their photos after their ceremony instead of prior to their wedding ceremony.  Knowing sunset and sunrise are the two best times for outdoor lighting, you may want to check with the bride/groom to see where their photos will take place.

Depending on who you know best, you may want to reach out to the bride (appears you know her best, right?) and see if she is having many out-of-town-guests.  If so, many of the guests are in a worse situation than you are!

You may want to ask, if there is a hotel lounge or café near the reception site, or if they are planning a designated area for people to gather versus losing many of their guests.  No one likes being “all dressed up with nowhere to go!”

Copyright 2014, Kim Horn, MBC™

Hire expert, Kim Horn, MBC™ to help design, negotiate, mediate, plan, and implement your wedding details. 

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 75 in the World

Scottsdale Wedding Planner | ParadiseValley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

2010 Annual Conference Chair (worked with David Tutera) – Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

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Pantone 18-394 Dazzling Blue

Pantone 18-394 Dazzling Blue

 PANTONE 2014 Dazzling Blue 18-394

PANTONE 2014 Dazzling Blue 18-394

Placid Blue Pantone 2014

Placid Blue Pantone 2014

The Spring 2014 Pantone® Fashion Color Report features two gorgeous blues to help you include your something blue for your wedding.

Pantone 15-3920 – Placid Blue is sky blue

Pantone 18-394 – Dazzling Blue is an opposite to Placid Blue

You may have as much or as little blue accent as you wish for your day.  May be a feature of your color palette, or an accent color.  Remember one difficult situation when you choose blue as your color palette is every blue has a different mix of color, and if you are contemplating this for  your apparel, make sure every item is purchased at the same time from the same dye lot.

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

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Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale, Paradise Valley, Chandler, Phoenix and Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator | Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

ABC 2010 Conference Chair worked with David Tutera

 

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Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas

Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas

You’re engaged, you’ve set your wedding date, and now you need to “pop the question,” to your posse of ladies!  These ladies will be your glue to hold you together for your wedding!  Whether they live near or far, here are a few creative ideas for your proposal.

Brand your style and personality of your wedding into the idea, and allow it be a moment they won’t forget.  Think of one thing (besides you) all of your ladies have in common.  Do they have a favorite restaurant, club, wine, ice cream, cookie, cupcake, candle, or store?  Scheduling a time, day and location to get everyone together at the same time may be difficult too.  Recommend asking your MOH first.  If everyone is local, select and implement your setting and put your plan into action based on what assets your location offers (video screen, specialty desserts, customized menu cards, etc.).  For out-of-town ladies, skype them so they are still included in the moment.  If getting everyone together is impossible, make a video and send them the video link.

Design (or have someone design for you) a personalized card, photo frame, sign (on a chalkboard or layered/decorated card stock), cupcake, cookie, cake, or bottle of wine with, “I have my man, now I need my ladies.  Please say YES since I won’t walk down the aisle without you by my side!  Alexa, will you be my maid of honor?  Karla, will you be my bridesmaid?”

Some of your BFFs may be “keepers” while others may prefer something edible or an item they may “use/reuse.” A few suggested items:

-If they like wine, there are rings on top of a wine stopper.

-Decorate a photo frame “popping” the question on the frame with all of you in the photo together.

-Have cookies shaped in a dress with the color of icing being your wedding colors.

-Design cupcakes with writing on the top in your wedding colors.

-Use photos from a trip, or other great moments.

-Girls weekend out – incorporate “popping the question.”

Discuss it with your fiancé, since he may want to make a proposal to his men on the same day or night – you may want to all get together after to celebrate the YES!

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Wedding Tipping Guidelines from Phoenix Wedding PlannerKim Horn, MBC

Wedding Tipping Guidelines from Phoenix Wedding Planner Kim Horn, MBC

Your RSVPs are in (finally), and you’re three weeks from your wedding day!  As your wedding planner, this is the time to have all your details wrapped up.  Relax and enjoy quality time with your family and friends prior to your wedding day!

One of the questions I get asked as things wind down is, “Who and how much should I tip?”  With all the details, many seem to overlook the important task (and etiquette) of tipping.

Below is my go-to guide on tipping, so you show your wedding vendors, who put your wedding together, your appreciation for making your wedding day amazing.  Tipping isn’t required, unless a service charge is spelled out in your contract.  Tipping is a voluntary and customary expression of appreciation for exceptional service.

The golden rule is to check your vendor list to make sure you don’t forget someone.

Tipping Guidelines

1). Use the guidelines below, and write a check or place cash into an envelope with their name on the outside of the envelope.  Always carry additional cash and bring your check book for possibility of overtime charges or other incidentals.

2). Personalize a thank-you note to the vendors with a few details on how they helped you throughout the planning process.

3). Give your wedding planner all the envelopes at your wedding rehearsal.  The wedding planner will discreetly pass out your envelopes to your vendors.

VENDOR SUGGESTED TIP PROTOCOL HELPFUL HINT
BAND/DJ Musicians $20-$50 each; Band leader $100-$250; DJ $50 – $200 Optional, yet majority do tip. Need # of Band Members
BARTENDER $20-$25 per bartender Expected, check contract. Need # of Bartenders and if they are assigned exclusive to your wedding.
BELLMAN $10 – $20 each Expected, check contract. Moving your gifts.
CATERING MANAGER $200 – $500 Optional, yet majority do tip.
CHEF $150 – $200 Optional, yet majority do tip, especially if designed a special menu for you.
FLORISTS Depends on contract. Optional, depends on if they already charge you for delivery, setup, strike, and moving sets.
GIFT BAG DELIVERY Avg. of $2 – $3 per bag for bellman to deliver to room. Expected, check contract. Names on bags help bellman identify bag(s) per room or guest.
HAIRSTYLIST/MAKEUP ARTIST/NAIL TECH 15%-20% of total bill Expected Let your wedding party know you are handling the tip so they aren’t tipped twice.
HEAD CAPTAIN or BANQUET CAPTAIN $1 – $5 per guest Expected, check your contract to see service charge fee, then find out how much of service charge goes to staff vs. catering company or resort vs. staff. Try to get multiple events with the same captain.
OFFICIANT If member of church, donate $500+ to church,; Non-denominational $50-$100 depending on fee they charge. Expected
PHOTOGRAPHER $50-$200 each Optional
SERVING STAFF 15%-25% (Normally in Contract, yet Servers don’t receive all of this) Optional, based on contract. Need # of servers, and see if Head Capt. Could dispurse.
TRANSPORTATION 15% – 20% (Normally % is stated in contract) Expected, yet check contract to make sure it isn’t already included in fee. Find out qty.  and names of drivers.
VALET $1-$2 per car Expected, yet check contract. Let your guests know if you are tipping so they aren’t tipped twice.
VIDEOGRAPHER $50-$200 each Optional Need # of manned cameras.
WEDDING PLANNER $200 – $500, depends on how much $, time, and stress they saved you Optional, yet majority do tip. Will your lead wedding planner be at your wedding or an assistant?

 

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

Hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Paradise Valley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

2010 Annual Conference Chair (worked with David Tutera) – Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

O 480.921.7891

M 602.418.9089

F 480.829.6292

E info@ArizonaBridalSource.com

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Thanks to JanDekkerDesigns.com for the gorgeous photo!  Few vendors ROCK my world like Jan, plus her b’day is one day before mine, go figure, right!

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You found the man/woman of your dreams, your soul mate, right, congrats!  You said “YES”, you’re engaged, and since many items do come in “threes,” or “multiples of threes,”– such as graduating from college, moving into a new home, switching jobs, finding a new job, buying a new car, and then you just added the “wedding to do list” which is a mile long, you are BUSY!  You thought finding time to do things was tough before, well, it doesn’t get any better!

As an experienced wedding planner, at the end of the day, in my opinion (which you will hear TONS of opinions), this is truly what matters…having an incredible wedding of your dreams is important, yet more important is the quality of the rest of your life together as husband and wife.

Your wedding may be the first “party” you have thrown with all of your family and friends in attendance.  To make it more stressful, it is not only your family and friends, you have added the family and friends of your fiancé too (many you may not have met yet)!

The golden rule is important.  You have heard of bridezilla, groomzilla, and momzilla, so please don’t let the stress of planning your wedding turn you, or someone you love into one!  Reach out to those in your close circle of family and friends in a kind way.  You may disagree, tempers may flare, yet pick your battles, since relationships and friendships may end over minor issues which may have been solved easily and quickly.

Here are a few MUST DO tips before you walk down the aisle and say “I do.”

1).  Happily ever after happens in fairy tales.  Pre-wedding anxiety is normal.  Confront your fears, stress, or concerns about your marriage head on.  Be open with your fiance and your inner circle of family and friends.

2).  Plan a date night with your fiance.  Have a date night with your fiancé where you talk about what he wants to talk about, and don’t bring up “the wedding.”  Make it at a location on “neutral grounds,” where you both are comfortable and get back to “normal” before the stresses of planning the wedding.

3).  Discuss a prenup, checking accounts, credit cards, savings, and joining finances.  If you haven’t already discussed this, it is important.  You may want accounts to stay at “your bank,” while he wants accounts to stay at “his bank”.   Once checks and bills start coming in, you don’t want confusion about whose account they should go into or out of.  Are you going to stay with “your” bank, switch to “his” bank, or go to a different bank altogether?  Finances are normally one of the top items of disagreements in relationships.

4).  Discuss plans to have children or not have children.  Many breakdowns in marriages occur when someone “thought” or “assumed” their spouse wanted and expected something, then when they brought it up, said they were “blind sided” and didn’t see “that” coming.  If you are planning to have children, when, and how many?  If you are not planning on having children, best to talk about it now.  If you do have children, how are you going to raise them if you are Catholic and he is Jewish?

5).  Plan “me” time.  Schedule something which helps you relax, and something you like to do for you.  May be working out, hiking, playing sports, purging your closet, something for you!

6).  Bond and have heart-to-heart moments with your family and BFFs.  Once you are married you will have less free time with your parents and friends.  Plan something you have always wanted to do with them, yet haven’t done “yet” together, something on your/their “bucket” list.

7).  Talk about “When we’re married…”  Here is a way to get the creative minds thinking (LOVE using this in your wedding ceremony wording too):  You have known each other for ____ years, through the first glance of acquaintance to this moment of commitment.  At some moment you decided to marry.  From that moment of yes, until this moment of Yes (your wedding vows), indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way.  All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or on long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will, and you will, and we will,” – those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart.  All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

8).  You can’t change someone else.  This is one of the most valuable lessons I will ever share with you.  So many clients say “after the wedding, this isn’t happening…”and feel they have a magical way of changing their spouse.  When your vows say, “for better, for worse,” that is truly what to expect.  You love your fiancé for multiple reasons, and will be spending the rest of your lives together.  Marriage is a two way street, and communication and compromise are crucial to the success of your marriage.

9).  If you don’t like something, work at making a change in yourself to change the way you accept or don’t accept “it” in your life.  The definition of insanity by Albert Einstein is “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different results.”

Copyright 2013, Kim Horn, MBC™

Hire Kim as your wedding planner, call 480.921.7891 or text your name, wedding date, and wedding planner request to 602.418.9089.

Kim M. Horn, MBC™

Master Bridal Consultant | 1 of 61 in the World

Scottsdale Wedding Planner | Paradise Valley Wedding Planner | Chandler Wedding Planner | Phoenix Wedding Planner | Destination Weddings

Publisher | Pres. | ArizonaBridalSource.com

AZ State Coordinator Assoc. of Bridal Consultants May 2003 – May 2012

2010 Annual Conference Chair (worked with David Tutera) – Assoc. of Bridal Consultants

O 480.921.7891

M 602.418.9089

F 480.829.6292

E info@ArizonaBridalSource.com

ArizonaBridalSource.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

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